“Darn her for growing up and going off in the world,” my husband said after bidding goodbye to our eldest child at the airport on Sunday. It was a misty-eyed departure, at least for the parents. Granted our daughter is not leaving for good. But, after she had already spent a year across the country from us at college we weren’t entirely prepared for her to spend the summer away as well.
Yes, we are immensely proud that she found a great job at a cannery in Alaska. It will be hard work with long hours, but as she said, “It’s worth it, it will be great experience and I’ll be making bank.” The internet connection is spotty, which impacts her ability to stay in touch with friends and my wish to Skype once per week. This is a small price to pay, I assured myself.
After dropping her off, my husband and I headed to a local park to walk our dog on an unusual sunny Seattle day. We were starting to experience life as a twosome again, as our older kids were happily sleeping in. The contrast seemed quite sharp as we passed by an endless parade of moms pushing baby strollers. While I wouldn’t want to go back to that life-stage now, I admit to looking at the closeness of the families together with a little bit of wistfulness and perhaps a bit of envy. There could be no doubt, my baby was all grown up.
When my daughter was young, my social-worker mother counseled me, “Your job as a mom, unfortunately, is to put yourself out of business.” I really don’t wish that I had raised a dependent child, and if anything parenting has taught me, it is humility. Things change and I do still have three kids at home, so I will not declare game over, just yet.
My situation seems like a complete juxtaposition to the cover story of Time Magazine’s new issue, which asks, “Are You Mom Enough?” The article is about “Attachment” parenting philosophy championed by pediatrician Dr. William Sears. The headline may not grab you, but certainly the picture will. A model-looking blonde mother is breast-feeding her 3-year-old son, whose mouth is firmly affixed to his mother’s boob while staring into the camera. I understand why they chose this picture; no one would be talking about the story if the photo had been of the 74-year-old physician. The cover is intended to be sexual and sell magazines.
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